One thing I learned early in my career publishing small town newspapers is that no matter what you do, you’re going to upset or offend somebody. One of my mentors in the newspaper business told me that if you write that puppy dogs are the greatest pets in the world, the people who love kitty cats are going to be mad at you. And if you write that chocolate ice cream is the best, you can bet your butt that somebody is going to tell you you’re wrong because strawberry is better. As he said, you can’t please everybody no matter what you do, so say what you think and let the chips fall where they may.
I was reminded of that recently after two different blog posts seemed to offend somebody. In the first, a couple of weeks ago, titled Let’s Get Intimate, someone told me that I was insensitive to women, and someone else left a comment saying, “No one wants to read about your intimate and personal “spooning” moments. It turns our stomachs just thinking about. TMI!” Now, I wasn’t describing our sex life. I was talking about the fact that Terry and I sleep spooning and that we enjoy cuddling for a little while every morning when we first wake up and every night before we fall asleep.
As happens so many times, while somebody was quick to criticize, they didn’t have the backbone to state their name. Some people hide behind anonymity to say things they don’t have the courage to say to your face. In that particular exchange, Terry and several blog readers left comments setting that person straight. By the way, they weren’t cowards that hid behind a fake name. They stated their case quite plainly under their own names. That’s what adults do.
Then, after I wrote about Terry and I going target shooting at the range at the American Police Hall of Fame and Museum in yesterday’s blog, Not Bad After 9 Years, someone wrote that it was terribly insensitive of me to post something like that given all of the gun violence and mass shootings in this country. At least that person dared to use their real name when they commented. My response was to ask how target shooting at a range that supports a police museum equated to me being a mass murderer, any more than someone driving a pickup truck into a family made me just as bad because I also drive a pickup truck.
I am sensitive to the terrible toll that gun violence takes in America every day. But I don’t pull those triggers. And my guns are secured safely and used responsibly. I make no apologies for that. And as for cuddling and spooning with my wife, as soon as I post this blog, I’m going to go do it again. If that offends anybody, it’s your problem, not mine.
And finally, here’s a chuckle to start your day from the collection of funny signs we see in our travels and that our readers share with us.
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Thought For The Day – Don’t take yourself too seriously. No one else does.
When you consider what some people are offended by it’s pretty easy to see why this country is in the shape it is. They need to get offended by inflation, offended that children are malnourished and starving, that the Republicans want to end Social Security (ask them, they aren’t shy about it), that we spend millions keeping drug addicts in jail when treatment would actually help society, that our air is becoming more polluted daily, etc. There are so many reasons to be offended.
You and Terry spooning is not one of them. Glad you more or less told these hateful asses to piss off. Hell, I bet you even kiss her, too!
Offend away, big guy. If that’s all someone has to be upset by they live in a very tiny little world and have tiny little minds.
I wish the worst thing in the world was a husband and wife expressing love for each other by taking the time to cuddle. I would have given anything for that, but my husband always thought it was silly. He was a good man and we were together 31 years before God called him home, but he was never expressive about his love for me more than a card on my birthday and Valentines Day. I know he loved me but it would have been nice to hear and every now and then.
I agree with you, enjoy holding my wife close every night, and giving her a kiss before falling off to sleep.
Spoon away, Nick! One of my biggest regrets is not getting one more passionate kiss from my husband before he died. One of those kisses that could make my feet float off the floor. Married 40 years and now what I’d give to be in his arms again.
SPOON YOUR WIFE!
Offend away my friend. Offend away. 🙂
We Hoosiers up here are really proud of the young man who, STOPPED the mall shooting in Greenwood, because he was armed and ready when the tragic shooting started.
Not fearing for his own life, and probably he saved many, before the police could even get there. All because the law change for the “good guys” on July 1 making it okay to carry, without a permit in Indiana. His practice was a blessing.
LOL, I love it! While I may not agree with you about some things (as I’m sure there are things you won’t agree with me about) one of the great things about this country is we can agree to disagree and drive on. I hope you and Miss Terry have a long and happy life!
As I always say, ‘if you don’t like what you are reading, then don’t read it’.