The other day I got a message from someone who said that she has read my blog comments before about how Terry and I cuddle for half an hour or so first thing every morning and again every night before we go to sleep. She said, “I don’t mean to be too personal, but I guess I am, because I have to ask if you are bragging or if you are taking some kind of super Viagra that has you two having sex that often? My husband and I are a year or two younger than you, and we don’t have that kind of stamina.”
I replied that we cuddle and kiss and talk and enjoy being together, but that doesn’t mean we’re having sex each time. Usually, we are not. Her response blew me away when she asked, “Then what’s the point?”
What’s the point? I wasn’t sure what to say to that. The point is that we love one another and we love being close. The times we spend together like that are very intimate, but intimacy doesn’t have to be sexual. Terry and I both have always believed that there’s a lot more to making love than the physical act of having sex.
Holding hands in the car or as we walk through a parking lot, or in bed at night, opening doors for her, the caresses she gives as she passes me while I’m sitting at my desk or in my recliner, the hundred times a day we say I love you, the compliments and the little looks we exchange, those are all part of making love and always will be for us, no matter how old we are.
We have been together for 24 years now and it has been that way from the start. I feel sorry for anybody who doesn’t have that in a relationship. And I really feel bad for anyone who thinks that the only time for intimacy and cuddling is when they are having sex, because they have no idea what they are missing. Keep in mind that our largest and most powerful sex organ is our brain.
On another note, I have an appointment with a neurologist today to see if he can give me an answer to my ongoing head pain. It’s not nearly as severe as it was a few weeks ago, but it’s been there to some degree about 60% of the time since the onset. Send some good vibes my way, if you have any to spare.
And finally, here’s a chuckle to start your day from the collection of funny signs we see in our travels and that our readers share with us.
Thought For The Day – You don’t need someone to complete you, you only need someone to accept you completely.