The other day I got a message from someone who said that she has read my blog comments before about how Terry and I cuddle for half an hour or so first thing every morning and again every night before we go to sleep. She said, “I don’t mean to be too personal, but I guess I am, because I have to ask if you are bragging or if you are taking some kind of super Viagra that has you two having sex that often? My husband and I are a year or two younger than you, and we don’t have that kind of stamina.”
I replied that we cuddle and kiss and talk and enjoy being together, but that doesn’t mean we’re having sex each time. Usually, we are not. Her response blew me away when she asked, “Then what’s the point?”
What’s the point? I wasn’t sure what to say to that. The point is that we love one another and we love being close. The times we spend together like that are very intimate, but intimacy doesn’t have to be sexual. Terry and I both have always believed that there’s a lot more to making love than the physical act of having sex.
Holding hands in the car or as we walk through a parking lot, or in bed at night, opening doors for her, the caresses she gives as she passes me while I’m sitting at my desk or in my recliner, the hundred times a day we say I love you, the compliments and the little looks we exchange, those are all part of making love and always will be for us, no matter how old we are.
We have been together for 24 years now and it has been that way from the start. I feel sorry for anybody who doesn’t have that in a relationship. And I really feel bad for anyone who thinks that the only time for intimacy and cuddling is when they are having sex, because they have no idea what they are missing. Keep in mind that our largest and most powerful sex organ is our brain.
On another note, I have an appointment with a neurologist today to see if he can give me an answer to my ongoing head pain. It’s not nearly as severe as it was a few weeks ago, but it’s been there to some degree about 60% of the time since the onset. Send some good vibes my way, if you have any to spare.
And finally, here’s a chuckle to start your day from the collection of funny signs we see in our travels and that our readers share with us.
Thought For The Day – You don’t need someone to complete you, you only need someone to accept you completely.
You too are so lucky. I’d give my right arm to have what you do. I was married to a man who only touched me when he wanted sex for 37 years. Cuddling or even holding hands was “kid stuff” and he had no interest. He died and though I was heartbroken at the loss of my companion at first over the last 18 months I came to realize he was never really a companion. We just shared a house and a name. At 60 I am to old to try again but that’s okay too. With my luck I’d make the same mistake again.
This blog post should be required reading for any couple of any age before they get married. Bravo Nick
Nick I agree with you 100%. And it saddens me that she doesn’t get. My husband and I have the same intimacy that you find Miss Terry have. I can’t imagine my life without it. OAN, I pray the doctors find out what’s causing your head pain and fix it. I’m addicted to your books and need you well and able to continue to write!
what’s the point – POINT ON BRO!
THERE ARE SO MANY FOLKS THAT DON’T EVEN SLEEP IN THE SAME BEDROOM……..
thank god for the cleaning lady!
Right on Nick. You describe our marriage too and we feel so lucky to have each other and this kind of marriage. It’s been a mostly wonderful 57 years and we are still going.
Good luck with your neurology appointment – hope you get some answers – good vibes (and prayers) heading your way!
Your response was perfectly stated Nick… Boy, some people’s kids! … And their stupid opinions. My Wife and I are exactly like you two and agree that being intimate isn’t always about sex, who the hell thinks like that? It takes a special kind of person to respond so kindly as you do to some of these ridiculous comments. Prayers and good vibes to you Nick and God bless you!
I don’t mean to make light of your med problem but you made me chuckle when you said the biggest sex organ.is your brain. Then next sentence you said you were going to neurologist. Giggle giggle!
Sally, now that’s funny 😄 😆 🤣
Yes, the point is my husband and I have love and he is my best friend So glad you and Terry have such a love and friendship. And PRAYERS for your headache/stroke problem.
Completely off-topic when you go to your neurologist…. if you’re on a hypertension medication or you’re not on hypertension medication I’m sure you will discuss those symptoms with your doctor even if your BP is normal the symptoms that you’re having could be from lack of medication or possibly the wrong kind. Being a research guy research any meds you’re on for any type of side effects also having an Inlaw in the medical field is a great way to get good pro and con advice
Oh how I wish I had taken the time long ago to find someone to spend my life with but I thought my career came first and now I am in my 70’s, retired, and no one to spend my last years with.
Sending all good vibes your way those that I can spare