Aug 302018

We spent some time with the doctor yesterday, going over my MRI results and the radiology report, and then discussing what the options are. We covered several different things, from continued chiropractic treatments to stem cell therapy, to pain management options including everything from medical marijuana to a spinal pain blocking injection, and all the way up to surgery.

This is the second doctor now that has said that that if they were in my shoes they would think twice, or even three times, before going the surgical route because of possible complications. So that is way back on the back burner for now, which is just fine with me.

Yesterday they tried spinal decompression on me. Basically they strap you down onto a table that moves apart in the middle, stretching your spine to help alleviate some of the pressure. Apparently this is something that has to be done more than once, but I have no problem with that. Anytime I can get this many pretty women putting me in a horizontal position and strapping me down, I’m all for it. Yeah, it’s not what it looks like, but a guy can dream, right?

Actually, I know better than to dream about things like that. I’m a realist. But guys, if you’re not, this sign will help remind you.

Back at home, I had an interesting email from someone who has been a fulltime RVer for three years. Recently he and his wife decided that they just were not having a good time. They miss their family and friends back home, they miss their church, he misses having a workshop to tinker in, and she is a quilter who misses having a large quilting frame.

Their predicament now is that when they went on the road, they rented their house out to a relative instead of selling it. We know it’s always a risk when we do business with friends and family, and it has turned out that way for them. The relative, who has three small children, hasn’t paid rent in over a year and always has some excuse. However, the same person who can’t meet her obligations always has money for nice clothes, going to the casino or to concerts, dinners out, and whatever else is fun.

So do they go home and heartlessly (his word) kick the relative and her children out? Do they give her notice that they will be back in six months and she needs to make new living arrangements by then? He said they really wanted to be back home for Thanksgiving and Christmas but could stay away longer if necessary.

I replied that in my opinion this person has had all the time in the world to do things the right way and chose not to. I would let them know that I’m coming home on such and such a date and they need to be gone. That’s not heartless, that’s just good business practice. If this relative or her parents get angry and don’t speak to them for doing so, which the writer says is very probable, is that really a loss?

It’s Thursday, so it’s time for a new Free Drawing. This week’s prize is an audiobook of Ken Rossignol’s The Chesapeake: Country Cornpone Cornucopia. It is the fifth audiobook in Ken’s series of short stories of and about people in and around the Tidewater Chesapeake region. There is lots of history and humor, making it a perfect way to pass time in front of a roaring fire or on a beach or promenade deck. To enter, all you have to do is click on this Free Drawing link or the tab at the top of this page and enter your name (first and last) in the comments section at the bottom of that page (not this one). Only one entry per person per drawing please, and you must enter with your real name. To prevent spam or multiple entries, the names of cartoon or movie characters are not allowed. The winner will be drawn Sunday evening.

Thought For The Day – When I was a kid I used to fall asleep on the couch and wake up in bed. I miss teleporting like that. It never happens to me anymore.

Nick Russell

World-Famous, New York Times Best Selling Author, and All-Around Nice Guy!

  7 Responses to “It’s Not What It Looks Like”

  1. I’m with you on setting a date for the “renters” moving out and the owners moving back in. I’d have no need to maintain a relationship with those family members. The owners might want to be prepared to hire movers to get the renters out, though.

    I remember teleporting from the car to bed on drive-in movie nights, too. 🙂

  2. Nick, Jean & I have had an inversion machine for years & me before we even met.
    We both swear by it. it is a miracle worker. Just sayin.

  3. There’s no reason to pay for someone else’s lifestyle. And the casino comment is always a hot button for me. You can’t keep up financially with anyone’s gambling tab.

    As to the family relationship, you wont miss them. And anyone in the family that says something is welcome to take them in to their home. Awkward family event … don’t be bullied by a deadbeat.

  4. As a landlord myself, it could be very difficult to get rid of those squatters. Not that they shouldn’t try, but allowing them to slide on the rent pretty much means they won’t have any legal standing. Set a date and hope they get out. . . my gut feeling says they won’t. It will probably end up costing them a lot of money to get rid of them. And as suspected, there will be no relationship with that side of the family afterwards. Our rule as landlords was that “We don’t rent to friends or family.”

    As to your back, finding the right doctor is the key. A neurosurgeon is the best in my opinion. I certainly have no regrets having had my back surgery. For the first time in 46 years, I was pain free and continue to be so. I can do everything I used to do. I was told I wouldn’t be able to tie my shoes anymore due to rods, etc., in my back, but that’s just not true. I was to the point it was difficult to walk and the only time I could was in the morning. Couldn’t shop, etc., after lunch. . . just too much pain. Any time I was going to walk, I had to take a pain pill. I decided to have it done at age 67. Decided as bad as it was, it wasn’t going to get better and I didn’t want a doctor to say. . . “You’re too old now to fix it.” I had tried pain pills, spinal blocks, physical therapy, chiropractic, acupuncture, the gym and I also have an inversion table. My chiropractor wanted to do the decompression therapy, but at over $5,000 for the treatment, I declined. It may be cheaper now, I don’t know. But I’ve never regretted the surgery.

    In the end, I asked my surgeon what I could try. . . he said “nothing will help except surgery.” I know that was his business, but if my trusted mechanic says, “You need a new engine” I know he’s telling me the truth.


  5. I don’t know where that person’s home is, but it can be almost impossible to get someone with young children out of a house in certain parts of the country after a certain date in the year…like in the Fall, going into Winter. And if they do get them out they had better be prepared for the house to be trashed, things broken and/or stolen and utility bills left unpaid. Letting her live there for a year or more without paying rent could give the renter even more rights. Hope there was a lease that spelled everything out. The owners need to talk to a lawyer and the sooner the better.

  6. Nick, long time lurker! 65 and I have sever spinal stenosis. I was in your shoes. I had a hot oil massage, and we began talking about cupping. Two weeks later, I had my first 1 1/2 hour session of cupping. I went back two more times. Absolutely has relieved the pain, the pressure, the numbing and to awful pain. Several years ago I went to someone else for cupping and it was not a good experience. This year new location and love it.

  7. mooching relatives- give them a deadline and then try to get them out when they don’t leave. yup

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