While enjoying Miss Terry’s delicious cinnamon rolls yesterday morning with Greg and Jan White, we got into a discussion about travel plans, and how often it seems like our plans get changed, or pushed to the back burner, because somebody needs or wants us to be someplace else.
For several years now, we have wanted to get back up the the Pacific Northwest coast, and we want to go to Alaska someday. Unfortunately, with our teaching schedule at Life on Wheels, there was never time to do either one.
By the time Life on Wheels ended, our old MCI bus conversion was getting so worn out that we needed to ether give it a major overhaul or replace it. After upgrading to our Winnebago diesel pusher, we were all set last year to do the Oregon and Washington coasts in June and July, before we had to head east to be in Elkhart, Indiana for our Eastern rally. Then we got word that Terry’s son was getting married in July, so we changed our plans to be there for that event.
This year, we have been asked to be in Arizona for a couple of family events, but we have decided that we’re going to have to miss them. That may sound selfish, but sometimes you have to be selfish if you ever want to do the things that are important to you.
Most of us know people who always wanted to do something, be it an RV trip to Alaska, a cruise, hiking the Appalachian Trail, or whatever, and they always put it on hold to make somebody else happy. Then one day, illness, death, or something else got in the way, and they never got to make that dream come true. I think that’s very sad.
We have met RVers who got off the road to be near their kids, who were dealing with family issues, or because they felt like their grandkids needed them, or because aging parents needed their care. That’s commendable, but when do they ever get their time?
We’ve also known fulltimers who let family members guilt them into changing plans, and in a couple of cases, even getting off the road.
I refuse to do that. My family knows that if they need me, I will be there, for as long as it takes. But that doesn’t mean I will be there each and every time they want me to be there.
When we’re young, we think we’ll live forever. But when we get some years on us, we learn that isn’t true. We can replace cars and RVs, we can lose weight and gain it back again, but time is the one thing that we can’t get more of. We’re all born with an expiration date, and none of us know when it is. So make the best of the time you have, and if some call that selfish, so be it.
Thought For The Day – Wrinkled was not one of the things I wanted to be when I grew up.