That’s not a typo in the headline, folks. A common concern for new RVers is how they can handle life together in a cramped RV. Being together can be wonderful, but how much is too much?
I cover this in depth in my The Reluctant RVer seminar. It is a real issue for some couples, and not a problem at all for others. A lot depends on how your relationship is going in. If you can’t get along together in a 2,000 square foot house, you’ll hate it in a 300 square foot RV. There is no shop in the garage or sewing room to escape to.
It’s one thing to love each other, but if you plan to live together long term in an RV, you really have to like each other as well. You have to learn to rely on each other, because there are times when one or the other of you has to be the strong one and carry the load for both of you.
You must each have your own space. Maybe that is when one goes into the bedroom to watch TV alone or read a book. Maybe one goes for an occasional walk alone. In our case, I hate shopping, and Terry enjoys taking her time at the grocery store looking for bargains. So she usually goes alone, and I have the bus to myself for a while.
It is also important to be able to communicate and to compromise. If the husband enjoys baseball and wants to go to every baseball stadium in America to see a major league game, that is fine. But what if the wife wants to visit museums or Presidential homes? Is there time for her interests too? There must be if you will have a successful RVing experience.
Another thing us guys are guilty of, all too often, is wanting to cover too many miles, never stopping to smell the roses along the way. We talked to one couple that had been on the road for a year, and had never spent two nights in the same place, nor had they ever spent a night in an RV park. It was all Wal-Mart parking lots, truck stops, and rest areas. The wife was absolutely miserable, but the husband was proud of how much they had “seen” in their travels.
Many times little things can be a problem in the close confines of an RV. If one party wants to sleep in, and the other one is an early bird, a loud TV or radio can become a major point of contention. This is where headphones come in handy, as well as basic courtesy.
Terry and I are best friends and very comfortable together. We may go two or three hours without speaking a word. I’ll be busy writing and she’ll be doing bookwork or something else, and we don’t feel the need to say much. But, by the same token, one or the other will be passing by and just lay a gentle hand on the other’s shoulder, or say “I love you” as we go by. Of course, there are times we’ll lay in bed in the morning and talk for an hour or two before we get up to face the day. It’s our time to be together.
Thought For The Day – Men are from earth. Women are from earth. Deal with it!